A great strategy for managing ADHD and compensating for the poor ‘working memory’ that plagues many of us is making lists. Shopping lists. List of things to pack. Or a list of actions to take. A list of steps to shut down the cottage. Or to prepare for a party. Lists are so helpful, and give one such a sense of control, that it’s possible to overdo it. Big time. Those of us with ADHD can be more than enthusiastic. Once we start listing what we need to do this morning, we can lose track, hyper-focus, and spend this morning listing everything we need or want to do, ever.
Hello, I’m Dr. Umesh Jain. Sometimes it is hard to separate one symptom from another as they call get mixed up. I call this the SNAFU effect. Situation Normal, All Fouled Up. Inattention, distractibility, poor organization and lousy time management coalesce into one giant mess. It is not like the ADDer isn’t busy. They are. They are just not doing what they are supposed to be doing.
Every say to yourself, “Where does the time go?” Unless they get a diagnosis and deal with it, an ADDer may end up lamenting, “Where did my life go?”
Yes, where does the time really go. Is it some 4th dimensional being that is secretly playing tricks on us. This is no game. This is life and the ADDer is losing badly.
First of all, having a lot to do isn’t bad. Think about it—the “To Do List” never ends, until you are dead. The bad news: if the “To Do List” doesn’t get controlled, you will be dead.
Steve Covey talks about the jar with big rocks. It looks full until you realize that you can put in gravel, which fills the gaps, then sand which fills the crevices, and then water which fills every last space until, yes, it really is full. What does that mean about time? Most of us thik, well, it shows you can always cram in more, you can always find time in the day to squeeze in more small chores. Steve Covey suggests something brilliant: It tells us if you didn’t start with the big rocks, then you will never fit them in later. You can fill your life with the small rocks, the sand, the water. And miss what’s big. What matters.
What are your big rocks? What are the big things you want to accomplish? What are the big dreams you have, or even better, what are the big dreams you’ve given up on. Time for discovery.
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