ADHD people love to talk. Problem is, they can fail to notice that no one is listening.
There are many symptoms of impulsivity… One that is immediately apparent is…
“often appears to talk excessively”
Hello, my name is Dr. Umesh Jain. ADDers love to talk. It is as if ideas pop into their mind and they have to let people know how important the idea really is. Now. Right now.
The filtering process is not working well. Friends and family may find it annoying, perhaps grandstanding or even grandiose. ADDers seem to want to tell you more than you need to know. Brevity is not a forte.
Hello, I represent the Church of The Saints Of The Tower Of The Saviour, and I have pamphlets here, our magazine, the Lighthouse, on the joys of salvation that await people who wear nice white shirts and spread the word…
Neat. Why don’t you come in and tell me about it… Is this the Tom Cruise religion?
Okay. Mind you, he’s a good actor. I thought he was great in War Of The World, I mean he just played that blue collar thing really well. I like that, though the gore at the end, I could have done without that. And here’s the thing, okay, you know near the beginning of the film, when the lightning bolts hit the ground…
I never saw the film, our religion forbids us to…
Okay, well, there’s about fifty lightning strikes in one place, about three blocks from his house and he and about a thousand other people run over and look and there’s a hole in the ground, and then there’s this boom, and the ground shakes
ADDers sometimes don’t know how to censor their dialogue. When you are happy to just have someone to talk to, there is an overpowering dominance. The center of attention.
There is a happy playfulness. It might even be a bit silly or sarcastic. Sometimes people get it and sometimes they don’t. They can easily offend others with their brand of uncensored talk. The words just flow out like a tap that can’t shut off.
… when Christopher Columbus arrived, the native Americans couldn’t see his ships, they were right there, but these big ships were so alien to their experience, they couldn’t see them, until one of the medicine men, said, “There’s something there.” Can you believe that? It’s like religion in a way. I dunno if the story is true or not. But anyway, Tom Cruise and everyone ar erunning away, screaming and the huge alien machine is firing these rays and boom, people are just turning to dust, just evaporating, I mean, it’s like pow! But I am thinking, this isn’t realistic…
It is frustrating to have to hear someone who is so overpowering in their conversation that they may not let anyone else speak. But the speech is not like a bipolar person who speaks so quickly that the speech may be intelligible. It is not like the Asperger’s person who never maintains eye contact and doesn’t seem to have a personal connection. Bill is loveable, annoying yes, but loveable.
ADDers get easily side tracked in conversation. Sometimes their speech is referred to as circumstantial as if they want to get to a point but in some round about manner. Sometimes the speech can be so off the target they stop themselves and ask,” now what was that question again?” This is called tangential speech.
ADDers aren’t lacking ideas, opinions or impressions. Bill was a “chatterbox” so his parents stated. It can be draining on a listening audience. They wear you out.
You might try to get away but an ADDer loves an audience.
… here’s the thing that’s not realistic about the movie. You got a thousand American’s running away from an alien machine, feeling for their lives. And none of them are having heart attacks. None of them are waddling along the way fat people do, and hey, 50 percent of Americans are obese, I mean, where are the fat people? Five steps and they’re dying. In real life the aliens wouldn’t need to fire a gun. Just go boo, watch all the fatties run, and drop dead of a heart attack after half a block…
Silly, annoying, rude, uncensored talk. Too much information. There is a time and place for certain things. ADDers never seem to pick the right times. They include too much detail and while there observations are often insightful, nay, brilliant at times, it’s just not appropriate for here and now.
In a different circumstance those observations could be considered inventive. One solution is for the person with ADD to give their friends and family permission to go, “Woah, off topic.”
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