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I don’t know about your husband, but I have no idea when I’m doing it. He used to walk off when I did it, but now he has started taking my hand or rubbing it or just saying, ‘are you still in there?’ in a jokey way. I suspect he sometimes just leaves it though because I often realise that I was having a conversation at some point but I can’t remember what about. And he doesn’t comment when I say, ‘what were we talking about?’ either any more. He just reminds me and I can sometimes carry on, sometimes though it’s just gone.
As the one who ‘zones out’ I want you to know that I too just adore my husband and kids and I love talking and listening to them. What they say does interest me and I DO want to pay attention. I really do. I am SO frustrated when I realise I’ve missed a huge chunk of something someone’s said. But I’m the first there if someone is upset and I don’t care if it’s in the middle of the night. I’d do anything for any of my friends and I’d never, ever deliberately let my family down.
There’s something really attractive to you about him. What is it? Is that something you can build on to help you cope while you’re unravelling all this other stuff?
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