Hi timnicebut….
I am also in the UK, male and same age. Diagnosed combined type just a few months ago. Can certainly relate to your struggles. Sorry to hear about the panic attacks, I’ve had real awful trouble with those too, much better now but still rear up sometimes. It is really frustrating that we are so far behind here, everything is just so damn hard and SLOW! But we are fortunate to have a few good doctors here.
Are you sure about the hyper side ? Just have to mention it because I didn’t realise I was 😆 Took me a long time to slowly accept it, even now I suddenly recall things that make me chuckle to myself. Now that I hang out with others who ‘get it’ they quite often say ‘you’re getting pretty hyper, have you forgotten to take your meds again?’, and indeed I have done just that 🙄 Seen this happen with others too. The medications can often help people see their symptoms with more clarity. But it takes time to adjust, if you have lived like that for 4 decades 
I have found the support groups very useful. Nice to not feel alone facing all this. We can also learn a lot from mixing with others with ADHD. Depending where you live you might have a journey, but I’d recommend trying some. Most are quite relaxed, just meet up somewhere for coffee/beer, chat and have a laugh. We help each other, and that is benifical in both directions 
Nice to have some ADHD friends to support you through the tough bits 😉
Hope to see you sometime.. I’m usually about in London and the South East.
Don’t give up ! (I felt like that recently – glad I had a good ADHD friend to keep me fighting it)
😉
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