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MT9er-yes the comment was for the thread. you are absolutely right. I too, spin those endings. I’m constantly told that I “over-analyze” everything. Yet when I don’t do that, I’m told that I am thoughtless and/or clueless regarding an issue (most likely due to the lack of umpulse control-think it, say it). A happy medium would be great! That is what I’m working towards. Think about it, but don’t say it unless I really should! I am hoping that one day my hubby and I can also go to marriage councelling. He is very resistant, but he also refused to believe he might have ADD. He always thought that if he had it, someone might shove pills down his throat and then he’d be a zombie. Hopefully, when he sees that now that I’m getting treatment (including meds and pyschotherapy), I am not becoming a zombie, but rather a more relaxed and productive human being who is more pleasant to be around (this is what my kids are telling me anyways), maybe he won’t have this fear any longer.
So….sorry for the tangent…..maybe one day we’ll be in a place to go for councelling together. One day at a time. Just want to get myself to that good place first.
I’m sorry to hear of your “huge issue of trust”. My hope is that you and your wife will hold on longer to at least give the councelling a try. The one thing that keeps my hubby and I going are the 22 years invested. It’s alot to walk away from.
In any case, my thoughts are with you.
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