— Dspcldy thank you! I look for that happy medium also. The urge to interject, presume, add-to, finish someones sentances is the HD part and I realize that I have that, also. The problem is I ‘feel’ that if I don’t do that the other party is thinking I’m not involved. The other reason I think I (as an ADD’r) do it is, if I don’t — my mind wanders off on purple doohickies and I end up really, not being involved because “you said what” happens to me.
— My wife and I are litterally on the edge of the cliff and the chasm is bottemless from my perspective. I found that the ‘huge issue of trust’ was more of a minor issue because of my spin and jumps to conclusions. Sucks for me. But – that one was out of the way and more probs came up, so good news is we start counsel on tuesday. It’s very scary… it is. I still feel that this is all my fault, disgusted with me, right now it must be the darkest before the dawn point. sigh. I hear you with your 22 y…. guess what — I met my wife in 1980, married in 1983, and until recently it’s been a fantastic trip. My dis-order and other self image issues has almost destroyed everything. I hope we can move on.
As for my meds and cbt (cognitive behav therapy), it is going well as can be. My real shocker is that taking meds has helped me be more “here” for my wife, even if we are puking out some nasty stuff. I find I can say read your entire post without wandering off onto a daydream (wow — I actually did read your entire post at once…. NEAT). I’ll talk to my doctor about the meds since I do feel they are interfereing with sleep and making me feel a little high. I may need less, than more.
— Thanks for you thoughts and all — I hope you enjoyed ‘my’ tangents 