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Hi Kimberly,
My best advice is get councelling. ADD is not something that will every go away, so whenever issues come up, not only will you and your spouse have to deal with the issue, you’ll have to deal with it with ADD in mind. Even if it’s under management. Especially during any time of important change – such as new treatment, move, new family situation (new baby, parents moving in next door, new pet…)
With new treatment, you can be looking at life completely differently than you were a year ago, much more so than 5 years ago when you got married. All of a sudden, you’re not nuts. All of a sudden, the world is open before you. All of a sudden the roads and doors that were blocked off to you before are open. For the ADDer, diagnosis and treatment can be like being given the keys to a candy shop for a child… I’m sure that you are not different than before. I’m sure he’s not different than before. The only thing is that you’ve now gotten a diagnosis and are receiving treatment.
With councelling, you’ll get better perspective. Councelling doesn’t mean you’re marriage is going to pot. It means that you’ve encountered a situation for which you may not have the tools to deal with. Going to get councelling is going to look for the tools that you need.
My husband and I are looking at this same thing, not only do I need to go for councelling for myself, but we need to go for councelling to deal with ADD in our relationship.
PS: when reading this to my husband, he thought that your husband might be ADHD too… Councelling would sort that out too.
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