Miss Placed – Wow! The same goes for me. When I start working at a new place, at first everyone is friendly. Then after a year or so, they kinda look me as though they think I got somekind of a problem. Over the next year or two, I get the feeling that I bother them. They dislike me. Then I feel as though I’m pushed to leave in a subtle way. It was very obvious though in my last place. I’ve never been in an office for more than 5 years up to now. At my actual workplace, it started that way too but then I found out about my ADD and began having anxiety attacks. I guess that got me some sympathy and maybe some understanding. At least, the people concerned by my health knew and really understood. I told a lot of other people. I don’t keep it a secret. I’ve been there for 7 years now and don’t feel pushed out. That’s nice.
As for friends. I haven’t had any since my childhood. For personnal reasons and because of ADD, I chose to isolate myself. When someone tries to befriend me, I try to respond to that but after a while I feel as though I’m considered as immature or something. Anyway, having friends is just a lot of bother. You need to go places with them, keep in contact… I have a problem getting around, I need to draw myselp little maps, figure the transport and take notes. Plan, plan, plan! 🙄 I’m not good at keeping in contact.
But when you are understood, even helped, it feels so good! If you have someone you trust at work or in your personnal life, tell them. It’s worth the effort to maintain a friendship. 