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Re: Answering sceptics – a question for Rick

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Rick Green – Founder of TotallyADD
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Hi, sorry, I haven’t bee in on this one.

Okay, first piece of advice… whatever someone complains about or goes on and on about, or argues vociferously about… says much more about them than about you.

This is why the televangelists and politicians who are the most adamant that homosexuality is an abomination, a sin, a terrible scourge, etc., etc., etc. are the ones who are caught in the mens room with another man or have their tennis instructor claiming they have had sex for nine years and done drugs continuously.

So don’t take it personally.

Second, get that they don’t know any better. And consider that at one point you didn’t know any better.

There are still people who have been dealing with ADHD in their kids for ten years and yet they will claim, “I won’t put my child on medication, the drugs are dangerous.” Fine, if you don’t want to put your child on medication. Who would? But please, dangerous? Compared to what?

Sorry, I just get cheesed. Which of course says something about me.

Third, stick to the science. Ask them questions. Never defend, never argue. Just ask questions and watch them fumble for answers.

THEM: “I don’t believe in ADHD. It’s just made up by drug companies.”

YOU: “Really? What about the criteria in the D.S.M. -IV? Do you think those are all invalid?”

THEM: “The… the what?”

YOU: “The 18 Symptoms of ADHD. You know about those right? I mean, they define the disorder. You must know what the disorder is exactly before you can say you don’t agree with it.”

THEM: “Well, uh, I just think…”

YOU: “So do you think both subtypes are invalid?”

THEM: “Uh…

The only downside of this is, you have to know what you’re talking about. But I find this interesting and learning about it has been fascinating.

Just don’t get hooked, stay calm, smile, and ask questions.

Another great strategy, is to agree with them:

“Yes, I’m so glad you said that, because that’s what so many people still believe, despite the overwhelming evidence of thousands of studies and millions of people who’ve responded to treatment. But there’s still so much ignorance being spread around. For example, I’m guessing you can’t actually tell me what ADHD is, or what the 18 symptoms are, right?”

A caveat: My temptation is to demolish the other person with my wit and wisdom.

Not really wise.

They may stop arguing. But shutting up and biding one’s time is not the same as agreeing.

The ultimate way to convince people, and I’ve seen this again and again, is to show them the documentary and ask them what they think.