Thanks everyone. Unfortunately, I’ve tried all these things. I suggested going with him, but he said it wouldn’t be any fun. I’ve never told him he couldn’t go! He’s his own person and I can’t control his behavior. He DOES NOT go with buddies. I’d be much more comfortable with that. He goes ALONE. No one knows he goes and he won’t talk about it because he’s too ashamed. If he was going and coming home to give me the benefits, it might be different. But that is definitely not what happens. He goes, spends all his money, lies about it and suffers from deep, deep shame. This is not a healthy situation. It’s not just going out with your buddies for some fun and getting aroused and bringing it home to your girlfriend. Not at all. I wish it was. This is an addiction, and something that causes him tremendous pain. Also, he’s getting their phone numbers and having communication outside the club 
Re: Avoiding sex, yet addicted to sex?2011-12-24T17:09:33+00:00