Re: Because maybe you guys all understand

[dspicelady]

cayjam- you are showing your “all or nothing” ADD traits! We ADDers tend to think, wrongly of course, that if meds are prescribed to cure an illness, then ADD meds must cure ADD. If the wonderful parts of ADD are part of the problem, then they will be cured as well. Meds aren’t going to take away those wonderful things that make you the fabulous person you are. They are yours. Meds won’t stop you from being late for things or being a good friend either! The choice to medicate is yours, but consider this. You state numerous, let’s call them symptoms, that you are struggling with. If meds helped you to deal with those symptoms (not eliminate, but gave you the tools to DEAL with them), without taking away even one of the wonderful things you like about yourself, how would you feel about meds then? Let’s say meds helped you focus long enough to clean your home. Now you can invite guests over without feeling stress the whole time they are there, which makes you a better hostess, which means you can also focus on conversing with them. Now meds have also helped you to be more mindful of your “blurt-mouth”, so you are not always saying dumb things at the wrong time, so you eventually relax around these people, knowing you can trust yourself more. Friendships blossom within this context.

Meds will not take away your creativity, your intelligence or your fun-loving attitude. It will only remove the roadblock that’s been stopping you from the things youve wanted/needed to do. You still have to do the work (cleaning, working out, etc), but with meds, your thoughts will be more like, ” well, better get to the laundry….i’m actually getting the laundry done!” , instead of “well, better get to the laundry….oh look, a pebble!”

We ADDers don’t need to be fixed, but sometimes we need some help. Whether this help is in the form of therapy, meditation, coaching, exercise, meds or a combination of any or all or something else entirely is completely up to the individual. We are all different with different challenges and strengths.

Advice? Try out some different approaches. Nothing you try has to be permanent, even meds. Just experiment and see what gives you the most positive benefits. You will know what works for you and what doesn’t. It’s a journey. Good luck!

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