Quizzical – from your latest post it sounds to me like you haven’t made a mistake that you need to worry about, but you have had to tolerate a mindless bully.
Unfortunately these people exist everywhere. How they can be dealt with depends on their relationship to you – ie if a line manager, a co-worker or someone you know socially.
A simple calm sentence such as ‘I don’t think your behaviour is acceptable’ or ‘please treat me with respect’ or ‘you’re not a very nice person are you’ or…….well I won’t write the last option! I used the last option on a bullying boss once and it made things worse.
Bellamom – you should have used the last unwritten option on the co-worker you described!
So I think there are two things here – the dropping the cannon ball which everyone does and dealing with a rude person.
Nobody should have to tolerate rudeness. But it’s easy to suggest responses when not caught up in the immediate emotion of it.
Try to develop self belief and a sense of self worth and the rest will slot into place. Easier said than done but you can do it.
REPORT ABUSE