Re: Can we stop being negative?

[Anonymous]

Hi L_B……….sounds like we are as different as night and day and that’s fine…”viva la difference”. There is room for that in my world. I have found pockets of that difference on this site from time to time, it’s great. I am one….there are others, not a majority it appears, but certainly some, a percentage let’s say????

It seems, as you say, for the majority of us maybe, ADD processing is an impairment, and I do understand that, I feel that from many site members………but…..it’s not like that for everybody. I can’t, and don’t, assume to speak for everybody, it’s not my place to do so. I do however understand, it is a large world out there, and there is room for many permutations and combinations….or so I think.

I found your comments on ability, disability and business very interesting and maybe challenging too. So, I’m compelled to respond. I post this as an sampling of the possible, in reference to your comment on rash business decisions?? Sure, again, yes… for some, I believe what you say to be very accurate, but then…….(for me)… I was a Business Planner, in a telecommunication company. I held a job, worked up through the rank and file, I did well in my career. At one point, was seconded to a overarching coast to coast telecommunications company (for a year) to head up a project to prepare the member telcos for the onslaught of the technology competition. I was very successful at it. The fine point on this is, they sought me out because of what I envisioned (out of the box to coin a phrase), and the inherent process(s) and solution(s) I brought to their table. This all happened in a world heavy with linear people, a literal haven for engineers and accountants, who, I suppose, were limited (impaired maybe), by their linear process brain….. limited visionary ability. I post this not as a quip, but as a sampling, for purposes of sharing and understanding, that indeed we (Adders) abilities may be wildly varied…and variations maybe limited only by one’s immediate perspective. Yet we also all share various similarities…..so, there you go???????

I’m 60 now, did my 30 years, I’m retired, financially solvent, and ADD. Both my children are ADD….well, they are adults now actually. Opps, almost forgot, I’m living with the same partner for 35 + years too???? All of these things supposedly go against the ADD grain, the “A” typical. The point I’m trying to share is….we differ L_B……we all do, even within my own nuclear family we differ……greatly. My son and daughter differ from each other, as they do from me. One struggles with one thing, one struggles with another. People do, people struggle…..linear people struggle too. Some linear people are quite successful at their lives… while… others…….. hmmm……… maybe do not have quite the same success stories.

Yes… I have math issues, I’ll never find algebra a breeze, I struggled writing term papers, I have all my socks lined up in a specific drawer (hahahaaha)……hmmmm….does that matter…not to me. It seems as I said at the onset, we are different the ADDers, the linear….all of us. So, I guess to suggest that we, who see ourselves as gifted are deluded….. well…….hmmmm…..it may be a limited view???.

I get that it doesn’t work for you, I understand that, I really do ……..but…..there is a segment for whom it works and works very very well. We do co-exist on this web site and we do share issues, and solutions and provide support to each other…..we ADDers are different, a minority for sure. I also acknowledge that from time to time this very conversation comes up, you can find versions of it in threads all over the site. I have to wonder if by sharing the other side of the coin, maybe some are encouraged in their struggle, maybe strive to look beyond their immediate limitations …..well….. I don’t see that as anything but positive.

I hope, there is room in this big world for all of our opinions without limiting anothers……thanks for your thought provoking post.

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