Re: Communication between ADHD people

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I’ve seen it go both ways – at work, there’s a fellow who is ADHD, and I didn’t see it at first, and we clashed. In part because I’m enforcement of security and computer abuse, and he was all about spending time on everything BUT work……………. Now I know why he did, not that it’s right in a government job, but I know “he can’t help himself”. And conversations since have focused on what we have in common……

My wife exhibits many ADHD symptoms, but isn’t. when she “acts” adhd, like not paying attention, forgetting things, asking me a question, and I reply, then 10 seconds later she asks again and says I never answered – it causes clashes. I have seen it work both ways, I guess. Like any other human relationships or communication, ADHD or not, both or one, it’s still people involved. Just because you have ADHD doesn’t mean you fit a mold and will hit it off with any other ADHD person. There are times I can converse more easily with a non-ADHD, but then it’s usually on a high intellectual level when that happens. I like hanging with those 130 or there-abouts IQ and when that happens, we just click (as long as politics is left out of it) I REALLY get along great with the other network admin at work, he’s a very high IQ and we have a lot of common interests, he’s far from ADHD. Same for an Australian friend – he’s mensa – and we can really get along great on high-level stuff, he’s so far FROM ADHD, not even close, no symptoms.

I’m a VERY visual learner and according to the last neural-psychologist I saw, in the “superior” range at that, and I find I get along great with other visual learners as we expect and need the same thing – but that isn’t a part of being ADHD, is it??

I guess I find it’s the other aspects of life that matter as much as ADHD or not as far as getting along or communicating.

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