Re: Counselling for marriage (probably both of us have ADHD, one might have ADD)

[Anonymous]

Hey no dopamine……an counselor is difficult to find. A great counselor, is even harder to find. There are many counselors out there but to find one that works for you is difficult. To find a counselor that works for both (in a couple) the list gets even shorter. Shop, shop a lot, it is a life decision you are making…..it can influence you for ever…..if they are good. Singles rather than couples counseling may be the answer to begin with……don’t discount that avenue. This process is s-l-o-w and should be, any counselor who suggests a few sessions might be all you need is suspect. Maybe separate counselors is the answer, all counselors don’t work for everybody.

I found that my counselor….and I went to him for quite a few years was capable of working with me because of who he was, not who I was. I guess what I’m trying to share and doing it poorly is a good or great counselor, should be able to guide you through whatever it is, regardless,ADD or otherwise.. A good counselor in my mind has insite, and experience in life, real life and real life issues. I would suggest it helps if they have met and conquered their own life obstacles and tasks. Many counselors have been to school and have credentials all over the wall, but if they have not been there, done that, then for me, credentials are just wall paper.

As i said, I’m not sure a counselor has to be an ADD specialist………as much as they have to be a life specialist and guide. First and foremost I would look for one that is internally healthy…..not easy to find. A good one will sit down and tell you their story if you ask…I find that aspect critical. No story…..no thanks!!!

Just my view….I wish you well. It was best thing I ever did, and the hardest.

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