Re: Dealing with Anger / Crankiness

[Anonymous]

Caper wrote: All the techniques I learned were helpful to avoid situations that might lead to blowups, but they seemed to do nothing to improve my ability in the emotional moments.

I do get it. I avoid situations too. But as you’ve mentioned above, avoidance does nothing to help one to deal with these troubling emotions when they do come up. The more they get submerged, the more powerful they are when they do come up. This I know from personal experience with anger and grief. So I have found that the practice of invoking the emotion outside of situations allows one to work with it in a way that makes it far easier to experience when the emotional situations do arise. There are many books that talk about the real nature of our emotions and how to work with them – the Joy of Living is one I would suggest as a starting point.

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