Re: Do we tend ot be loners?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been a loner myself. My family kept trying to get me to socialize but I never really wanted to. I always felt awkward at family gatherings. At school people thought I was weird gay or retarded or whatever because I wasn’t a social dynamo and got picked on alot for it. I do socialize but i’m kinda pickey about whom I do so. I have realized over the years that yeah you can go out and be so called friends with lots of people but real friends the ones that would die for you are very few. I can have fun by myself and have no issues with that. I go to Museums and movies by myself and get out of it what I need. I went to spain with a school group but always went off on my own and I loved it because I didn’t feel bogged down with people and was able to mix with the local populace unlike the ugly americans that didn’t know spanish. I love NYC because people tend not to be in your face and those that do talk to me I have a great conversation with because they have something to impart. I want to move there but I need to get a good job there that I can hold onto. I hope to be able to make that move one day soon because here in Miami there are lots of pressures here. I hate the family reunions because I hate having to lie about my life because they’re all a bunch of wealthy professionals who like to brag about their toys and I’m the odd man out. People don’t want to understand us. everyone says if I’m making it why not you? and i’m in no mood to explain so i just lie which i hate doing. adhd or not there are plenty of people who like to be alone for one reason or another so don’t get down on yourself too much or blame it all on adhd. my mom kept complaining why i never found a nice girl and settle down. well i hate kids and most girls want to have kids. i have a different outlook on sex and marriage than most women so we don’t mesh. i can’t expect a woman to understand and sympathize with me and my adhd and anxiety problems if i’m not willing to cope with the trials and tribulations of raising a kid so I just screw around whenever i can. not romantic or politically correct i understand but that’s how it is. anyway, if the fact of being alone isn’t getting you down adhd or not don’t worry about it. if you’re feeling empty inside join a local club or something with people that have the same interests and take baby steps.

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