Re: getting along with people …how?

[Anonymous]

Well my experience is getting along with folks is both fine and fun, and so is small talk…..I love the contact, I am, comfortable, I am ADD too?? I can while away the hours in a coffee shop with my buddies and, “talk of many thing…. of shoes…of ships…and sealing wax …..of cabbages and kings… and why the sea is boiling hot…. and whether pigs have wings”……(my apologies to Mr. L. Carroll).

So, I wonder if a large part not enjoying conversation or social occasions with others may…just may…. be somewhat to do with a shortfall of tools, or experience……remember, not everything comes natural to everybody, that includes conversation too……and certainly not all the time??

Examples:

Strap on downhill skis go up the the Expert mountain slope and get pushed off………there is a good chance it will be a poor experience…..yes, yes….. there are a few who would just fly…..naturally……but not many….certainly not me.

Strap on skates for the first time……..and have to go out and play hockey with an organized hockey team……hmmmm, same maybe?

But…….by and large, folks expect that they should be immediately comfortable and competent in social settings, and in the midst of an engaging conversation too, regardless off topic knowledge or whether or not they know or have a comfort level with the folks………what??? If your not comfortable being tossed in the deep end of the social pool……it’s gotta be ADD right??? Really???

Being comfortable in social settings……any social setting it has multi-elements to it. Self-image, self-esteem, past exposure to culture, politics, manners and grace, education (but not always), physical appearance (but not always), humor, the ability to manage comfortably, conversation, regardless of your knowledge of the topic, understanding the ebb and flow of conversation that makes others feel at ease too………jeeze I could go on and on. The point is, maybe, before we quickly throw yet another log on the ADD fire…….there is something(s) else that may we can attribute social/conversational angst to, other than ADD???? Maybe not????

I’m just sayin…..sometimes we appear quick to fall on the ADD sword…….too quick maybe???

Toofat

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