Re: Holidays… I hate holidays. Does anyone out there like them?

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Wgreen – ADD also has the effect of not liking large groups, holidays, etc. It’s a part of it depending on the severity and “type” you have.

In my case, I was diagnosed with ADHD (severe) and “social anxiety” which the neuro-psyc said was PART OF adult ADHD.

Some say it’s a result of the ADD child having to deal with troubles being different, etc. – so they learn to avoid people.

You said:

>>If autism can be said to be a disorder that impairs the ability of an individual to interact with others, .<<

Same for ADD really. It’s not untypically a part of ADD in adults.

ME, I love the holidays! What I do NOT like are crowds, the rude people, black friday (how appropriately named) and very large family gatherings. If we have 6-8 people over, say direct family, I’m just fine and really do enjoy it. But grow from there, cousins and their in-laws and out-laws, extended family, kids by the dozen I don’t even know – the DIN for hours on end, that I don’t like at all. I avoid the large gatherings.

I avoid crowded stores (hassles and rude people) I get tired of trying to fight through a rude crowd when simply trying to buy a gallon of milk.

I like the time of year – I like what it’s SUPPOSED to be. i hate what it’s turned in to. I hate the competition for a toy before the fellow next to you grabs it out of your hands. I hate the gatherings where you can’t hear a single voice in the crowd.

(and I don’t like gatherings with a whole lot of little kids with sniffles where the parents think it’s really ok to bring a sick kid who is under 2 years old and won’t remember it anyway – rather make everyone sick than do the right thing and think of others – I ALWAYS get sick afterward – today is no exception)

So I like the holidays spent with small number of family, or just immediate family. I like what it’s SUPPOSED to be and mean.

I hate rude shoppers, competition for trendy gifts, crowd, and gatherings of family folks I won’t see again for a year – and don’t know who they are anyway.

just_nemo – you have other traditions you could respect and follow if you wish. Or you could do what “Christians” did for centuries – use the holidays of OTHERS to celebrate what they believe. I mean, really, Christmas did not originate in late December, the “original U.S. thanksgiving” did not happen in late November, etc. In other words, “celebrate” or remember on that date, but in your heart and mind, be really observing something more along the lines of your own traditions. (harder to explain – I know what I mean, but just can’t convey it well at all)

Frankly – I can and do understand much of your line of thinking in your message. “I get it”.

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