Re: I “came out” to my employer

[Anonymous]

That is horrible and your supervisor needs a swift kick in the arse. Write down everything you remember, and carefully document everything going forward. Secretly record any interactions too, so you will have proof of your supervisor’s extortion attempts (because beyond all other harassment, this is illegal). Even if you do nothing with the recordings, you will be able to defend yourself knowing that you have a leg to stand on if it comes to it. And in these situations, hard proof can be good for your own sanity too, for those times that you second-guess yourself. I wish I had recorded meetings with my manager when she was busting my ass about medication, because sometimes I wonder if I’m just insane or oversensitive or misinterpreting, etc etc.

I think you are smart to have said you stopped the meds…you are putting yourself in danger every time she successfully extorts meds from you. And now you can say “this person is pressuring me to restart meds saying my performance has dropped, but it hasn’t, because I’m still secretly still on the meds…so if not for performance, why do they want me to be on the meds so badly?”

Do you think you could have a discussion about this with the boss? “Hey boss, I am concerned that the supervisor has a drug problem…” You’ve got good ammo already so anyone with a pulse should be able to put 2 & 2 together…unless they’re longstanding buddies.

Anyway, good luck with this, cover your ass, tread carefully, and keep us posted!

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