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Re: I feel lost and frustrated, not able to manage and control my life

Re: I feel lost and frustrated, not able to manage and control my life2010-12-11T06:36:25+00:00

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@lapotra – do not despair. if you are at a university you should be able to find someone in counseling services on campus to talk to, and try to get some of this stuff sorted out. also talk again to the doctor who diagnosed you with ADD. see if he or she can get you some life-coaching to go along with the medicine and make sure they have you on the right dose for you.

if you had a physical disease and could not finish your graduate assignments, they would have to give you extra time and allow you to take incompletes and finish them later. talk to someone, and if they are not supportive, talk to someone else. do NOT let the professors make you feel worse.

there is no reason to be ashamed of not being perfect. everybody has something ‘wrong’ with them, and there is no shame in being different in some way – thank heavens we are NOT all the same. what is perfect anyways?? i’m sure i don’t know!

it takes time for people with ADD to do all those so-called normal things because they don’t come easy for us, we have to go about it differently, and try harder, but maybe it makes it more worthwhile. there are some days when i wish i was “normal” too but then i think about how boring that kind of life must be, and i really can’t see myself there. don’t judge yourself by not being able to be that so-called “normal.”

you can do this. find someone to talk to on campus. or off campus. then take small steps to get back on track. don’t let anyone deter you. i just finished my masters degree after about 20 years of trying…i switched to a different university and it made all the difference. i surrounded myself with good people. find yourself some good people. start with student health services if you have to, but find someone to talk to. you can do it, don’t despair. please.

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