Re: Is it Really a problem?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it takes someone else to see that we have a problem. I had trouble hearing the message, from my husband. Other people were telling me it as well, in more subtle ways, as Tea has alluded to. One friend actually told me to “shut the f&ck up” in public, and a family member excommunicated me for something that I impulsively said.

Who wants to be told we are the problem when we think someone else is the problem? But sometimes we ARE the problem.

We all have coping mechanisms and for me, it was thinking I was normal for so long that I couldn’t see otherwise. I’ve seen a different “normal” now, with meds, and I can’t believe how different it is. The impact of that is starting to really hit me.

It wasn’t until I read a book that hit home hard for me, how my problem untreated could affect my marriage and how I was headed for rocky shoals. Once I started looking into it further and finally got a diagnosis, I was asked to stop driving until I was formally diagnosed and put on meds. Believe me, I sat up and paid attention to that – as billd says, and as my ADHD specialist says, untreated, we are a danger on the roads, to ourselves and others.

That’s just one aspect of ignoring the problem.

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