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Sorry to hear of your situation. In many ways I can empathize with you.
I’m sure it is true for many of us with ADD, that we can get so used to telling little white lies ( and half truths) to cover the various ADD related issues we have, that it can become a reaction in many situations. It might be why we are late, or to do with some impulsive spending, but often unnecessary. I know during my youth and early adulthood I fell into this trap. It’s a hard habit to break, and hard for others to understand.
From what you said about almost forgetting that you were diagnosed ADD as a child, it sounds about the same situation as being an undiagnosed adult with ADD. I spent over thirty years of adulthood thinking I was just a little eccentric maybe, but otherwise the same as everyone else. While you can develop coping skills to get by, and even be successful, there are likely to be many underlying issues that could sabotage relationships. Some of us are lucky and find love conquers all relationships, but even these are better once we begin to understand the part ADD plays in our lives.
Your girlfriend’s reaction suggest to me that these issues have some special significance in her life, and there is some history there that you will have to overcome.
Good luck.
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