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Maybe the talking is just a way of connecting. A lot of women have an innate need to connect in order to feel reassured that “it’s all good.” We will talk about anything at all just to get you to talk back, to hear your voice, to share the moment. We are hardwired to find security.
If small talk is annoying, you might need to find a different way to connect. Eye contact and touch can fill the same need in a woman that talking might do. Also, if you were to explain how small talk ruins the mood for you, without anger, blame or judgement on the other person, maybe the two of you could figure out a mutually pleasing way to interact.
I think it’s all about “we” and not “me” – which gets hard when you are alone a lot. I found that when I had a long “dry spell” I just had to start seeing people I didn’t think I connected with to get back in the swing of the “we” thing.
Just my thoughts – take it or leave it.
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