I have a little different perspective. Maybe you need to give her a chance to miss you. Right now you are the only one fighting to keep this relationship alive and she is waiting for you to jump through enough hoops that she sees your willing to change. You went to a doctor, you got meds, you are trying to be supportive. Maybe you need to start going out with other friends and family and consider not being in at 9pm when you are not allowed upstairs. If you have kids or family you can stay with for a few days maybe you should also look at this. When she is looking at a divorce does she realize that that means you aren’t always going to be there when she hollers for you. Sometimes absence really does make the heart grow fonder. And the next time you want to head to the store instead of helping clean do it. You keep to your side and keep all conversation and touching to the absolute bare minimum. You cook your meals and clean up your mess. Do only your laundry, vacuum only your basement, do everything for yourself as though you were living alone. ADD you may have but you are still a functioning adult. You are seeking counselling but nothing is going to be fixed immediately. If she is feeling ambivalent about your marriage that is something that you should be discussing but shutting you out and making this your problem alone will not solve anything. Everyone on here is right, this problem with the motorcycle only brought to a head everything that has been in her mind for a long time. Either she is ready to work with you or she is ready to quit. The problem is not all you and therefore you can’t solve it to her satisfaction. Wishing you the best.
