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Good suggestions Curly, maybe some time away might give her the space she needs and the time to appreciate what she values in him as a mate. I agree that he should clean up after himself, but not only his mess….why not show that he can clean up, period, without making the separation between his and hers. That would show that he understands what SHE has been doing all these years and allow him to acknowledge and value her contributions.
Not to be harsh, but am I detecting a note of defensiveness in Rich’s posts with regard to her not accepting his efforts? For me, the hardest thing was acknowledging MY role in the demise of my marriage. Once I was forced to go out on my own, I was better able to understand my ex’s position and let go of my defensive posturing, suck it up and acknowledge that it was mostly my fault (or to be fair to myself, my ADD). In any case. I hope it works out for you Rich and we’ll see posts of your continuing progress. This ADD thing has destroyed too many lives and marriages.
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