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I’m struggling a little bit with my own daughter. It’s not the same though. I have very little to share with her financially. I’ve never wanted lot’s of money, Super fast cars, etc. Enough to work as hard as my daughter has worked. I have helped pay for a fraction of her books, etc. a tiny drop in that bucket. It’s as much as I can help. She has large amounts of student load dept. She chose that debt. It’s difficult letting her grow through the grief of being in an unpaid, actually paid 12 K for. Internship, and not getting any more money from me in 6 months, (If I’m able to say no, that is…) I don’t have any control over how much her mom helps her, it’s a lot!. I can’t undo the past, I tried very hard to advise this kid, but most of the lessons of life have to be learned the hard way, just like the rest of humanity.
Powerlessness sux.
I’ve been very much on my own since graduation from high school. No college. I’ve survived and feel good about myself now. I’ve had some horribly rough years though. It scares me to death thinking of my kid going through what I’ve been through.
It’s never easy being a parent. But I’m still grateful to be one. Thanks Toofat. I hope petuniasmom got a chance to consider what ya said. We have to let our kids take a few shots. We’ll never be able to grow up for them. It’s painful, ugly, and brutal. But we survived growing up. we are still surviving it. So will they. Or they won’t. We don’t get to decide how well they do. I can’t help her if she doesn’t call for something besides money.
The bottom line.
We are mostly powerless. Unfortunately we can enable them to not grow much easier than allow them to grow.
Letting go bites! it really really bites. it sux. Pain Pain Pain.
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