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I am exactly the same way. I like to be alone, and find being in groups of people (parties, classes, family reunions, religious services, community gatherings, etc) to be incredibly stressful, irritating, intrusive, boring, and overwhelming. There is too much information flying around everywhere. I don’t like it. And can’t relate to what seems important to people for some obscure reason. I’ve been like this all my life.
My son has ADHD and is exactly the same way (only more so – I used to have one or two close friends in person, but he makes his friends online and that’s it) – and I understand how he feels, so I don’t bother him about it. If it doesn’t upset him, why should it worry me? He is not pining away for an active social life. If I am honest with myself, I am not either – I just feel like I “should” be because others act like it’s important. I love to be alone, enjoying the scenery, thinking, day dreaming, relaxing.
Recently I started reading a book about introversion and how introverts are the ones who go off by themselves to do creative and interesting things. The author is a self-proclaimed introvert and seems to think it’s dumb that society gives us all such a hard time. The book is called Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. I find it interesting and validating.
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