Re: Successful ADDers annoy the h*ll out of me.

[billd]

Sometimes it’s relaxing, a relief, soothing, helpful, whatever, just to read that someone else has the same thoughts I do at times.

At times, I’d not agree or say that, I have my moments – but generally speaking………….

Kudos to those who have found success, but frankly, you are the minority – otherwise, there’d not be a growing number of forums like these, a growing number of support groups, etc.

So congratulations to the minority who have it not so severe and have been fortunate enough to be in the right place, right time, and have those abilities. (as my wife would say, and often says “well I’m happy for you then”

Tips are welcome and may help some – but please, no “you can do it, I did” sermons. If it could be done, I’d be there.

If I could find such a job where my ADHD might actually help – don’t you think I’d have been there? Lucky few who find them, and who have understanding bosses. Mine is the opposite. He frankly told the doctor that since I’m on meds, he expects things to be fine and me all settled down and doing a good job. Basically he was telling the doc that now that I’m on meds I can be fully expected to perform like the others and need no other accommodations. How’s that for a great caring understanding boss that gets it.

I have only had ONE other boss in my life that really appreciated me and would have done anything for me (and he did, often) and I now believe HE himself was ADD – the rocking in his chair, the hand motions, the excited speaking patterns, inability to sit still, talking fast, other things. But guess what – upper management eventually forced him out! Treated him like crap after the company was sold and other management came in. They treated him like no loyal employee should ever be treated……….. I felt sick for him. He LOVED a good argument – and we’d often spar for the fun of it, like courtroom lawyers, we’d argue points we didn’t even believe in, then have a good lunch together. Yeah, more I think of him – the more I believe he was ADD like me. He understood.

Man, what I’d give for another boss, another job like that.

Thanks again for the post, john. get it out – off your chest. It sure helped me to read it!

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