Re: Successful ADDers annoy the h*ll out of me.

[Anonymous]

@sdwa

I totally agree with your last post as I can relate to all of it and have to say it is verry well put into words.

I to was diagnosed late and it has been a relief for me as well, helping to understand “it”, myself, and the corolation with my actions. Also, everything you said about seeing the big picture and not understanding how to find a career and what not was spot on, it was the same for me, and you put it into words perfectly, something i couldnt.

I am not saying that ADHD is an excuse for all of us, as for most of us it is not, but there are the VERRY FEW that seem to have the victim mentality about it and that bothers me. Just like you will have people with some sort of disfunction complain all their lives on how life is unfair, you will have people with the same disfunction accomplish great things. Ironically the bitter victims are usually the ones to vent, hate and comlain the most, and that’s what came to mind reading the initial post. Maybe I jumped to conclusions to quick, maybe the original poster hasent passed the acceptance stage yet, but I sort of have a verry limited tolerence to pessimism as it is hard enough for me to deal with my own issues dragging me down. If we were to adopt this mentality, all adhders would systematically need to be a failure, wich is non-sense.

Thus said, you are totally right about having a personal mission, and some people have a hard time finding they’re own, more so for adhders. But nothing is clear cut in life, my career is not really my career, i will never have a real career for the same reasons you mentioned yourself , but I accept that, and will not dwell on a career I can not have. In sorts, i often feel lost, like most of us do.

My mission is to cope with life as best i can while trying to do good, not on a professional or economical way but on a personnal one, one where i can look myself in the mirror. I dont value wealth, nor social acceptance, because it wont change what I see in the mirror.

I guess there is alot of “I’s” and “Me’s” in my post, but ultimately I am just trying to emphasize the fact that what some people perceive as success, is not always that. I would be in the hated column to the original poster, yet we share the same issues, same problems, same doubts, same confusion, same sadnes, same confidence issues, etc….

Adhders are definitly resilient, and ultimately that is the value that my father thaught me, not the desire for success nor wealth.

I live life trying to prove to MYSELF that I can do this and that, and no one else.

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