Re: Successful ADDers annoy the h*ll out of me.

[Anonymous]

@sdwa

I understand what your saying, and again i agree with you. The point I am trying to make is that the outside world might say you are doing well, but it is all subjective to how you perceive yourself. Just like you cant judge a book by it’s cover, the frustraion or struggles you face, the state of despair, I have them too, regardless of where i am in life; wich is not exeptional by the way.

I am exactly the same when it comes to the big picture and what you say about the school system, well i have said it almost word for word in the past. As an example, it took 3 semesters of college, wich was dreadfull and painfully demanding just to attend and do what was asked before I realised what i was really studying in. Half a program to realize what it was, to see the big picture, and realize that I hated it, that like you said, it was all linear. Zero creativity.

I think what should be said is that at some point, you have to realise you just wont fit in the mold. Many adhders need to pass that stage, unfortunately many dont. They still try to fit in and persist on having officejobs and what not that are not made for them.

Jamie Oliver is a Successfull Chef, he’s ADHD and Dislexic, why would I hate on him? I think it’s great if he succeeded, for me it’s motivation. The way I see it I try to understand his sitiuation. He sucked at school but was creative, he understood early he wasnt fitting in to the mold. So he found his way in cooking instead of trying to fit-in in a field he simply couldnt. His success is definitly due to other factors, but I believe this first step of aknlowledgment is verry important in his personal growth.

Just like I try to understand how my favorite goalie does his movements so that I can incorporate it to my game, I take the same approach with other adhders and how they cope with they’re lives, even if I know I dont have the same talent or ability. It can only help me get better.

Seeing the big picture is not a fault however. Many people who bring change are often ADHD, just as Steve Jobs was, we simply see things differently, and make the world a less boring place. Whithout embracing it and proclaiming it to be a gift, wich is pure bs, it is a fact that we are how we are.

To use your example, I suck at paperwork, and it would be the same for me to start fileing stuff, just wouldnt know where to start, sometimes it’s not even about knowledge or skill but I just cant do it. You understand I’m sure. So if it is a problem for me, why brake my head at it and get aggravated or mad at myself, that for me is not a solution, Why not get someone to do it for me, build a system, and show me how to keep it going.

Basically my daily grind is trying to find solutions to problems, and coping with my inabilities both in my work then in my outmost personnal stuff. I just strongly believe there is a solution to every problem, and this belief helps me get through the hard times, the dark hazy moments, when even the simplest things just seem impossible.

You may find it naive, but thinking the other way around would just bring me in a place I would never want to be in.

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