Re: Successful ADDers annoy the h*ll out of me.

[Anonymous]

@Bibliophile.

Living with ADHD is challenge we all have to learn to live with, to understand ourselves and our relation to our day to day lives. It is not easy and no one has a quick solution, what works for one may not work for you, etc… It all happens WITHIN each and one of us, and outer circumstances is everyones DIFFERENT reality.

Thus said, I never said we have to sytematically take upon artistic interests due to adhd. The point is that we should try to work with our strenghts, and around our weaknesses. A vast majority or adhders have a hard time in the linear office environment, it does not mean none of them should be there, if they can cope with it well good for them. No one said it had to be one or the other. However, you cannot deny that some fields of work are more suited to the symptoms of adhd. Alot of people are stuck in a job that they do not excel at and cant stand, regardless of adhd, and should consider change.

Also, delegating is not just about our deficits, everyone delegates regardless of add or not. Delegating is usually a solution to a problem, a problem i have no interest or need to prove to myself that I can conquer myself. And alot of problems you cannot conquer yourself, it’s the nature of life. That’s why there are specialists, professionals of trade, concultants in this world. Not using the tools at your disposal because it would make you feel disfunctional is ignorant at best in my book, and I have no shame in using a professional to do something I cant.

Besides, what do I have to prove by cutting my own lawn when it would take me twice as long and three days of mental preperation to be able to actually do it. I rather spend that time with my family or in other important parts of my life. The price it costs is no mach to the value of the time I save. I just cut on the other expenses to make it fit our budget. Do I dwell on my inability to cut my own lawn….no, but I value my decision making in this case. It’s all about your outlook on yourself.

Also, I shall never site any successfull or famous person unless I know them personnaly, have read they’re medical file, or written they’re memoirs, regardless if they have openly discussed they’re adhd and the impacts on they’re lives through various media outlets. I shall not bother you with optimism, and shall point out failures to make us all feel better and bigger then them. Obviously you have not understood that success in the eye of others is only about perception.

@totallyforgot

” F-CK the successful people, we need to look into our own homes, souls, and just keep trying to do good for yourself and family or pets”

Isnt that what true success is about, looking within and doing good for yourself and your loved ones? Regardless of the outside perception put upon you!

“”i’m not:

* dying of some horrible disease,

* or am in a country where i don’t have shoes on my feet or running water, or proper medical care.

* in a country where there is no freedom…..

there are worse people off than ourselves here….that’s one of the many things that i think about and it kind of brings me back to earth a little…..sorry for my idiocy here””

Well said!

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