Re: The issue of who to tell and who not to tell about my ADHD

[Anonymous]

Hi here Rickster………..hide or wear it proudly???? Interesting ……neither actually….there are other choices, I’ll share.

I do not hide….I don’t hide from the world, at all, not for any reason….to what end???? I am more than ok with the way my brain processes information. I am one of those who feels my brain and it’s process are a gift that have afforded me quite a great life….so far. I find that the way I see the world and myself in it are a wonderful advantage (for me). I see things quite different from the general populous, socially, politically…..artistically….many ways. For me being restricted to linear, compartmentalized thought and process holds no attraction…..none….. for me, it is actually debilitating. Sorry but there it is…..I find linear folks perspective limited and their scope extremely narrow…….that’s been my experience in the workplace, and socially. I understand there are many of us who do not share my thoughts….many struggle, and find life a very difficult road. I acknowledge that too, and feel deeply for their struggle, but, there are others like myself as well. So, I (personally) can find no reason to hide…….at all….ever!!

The other side of the coin…….I do not shout what others call ADD from the roof tops either, I don’t know why I would or should….to what end??? There are so many reasons to keep personal information personal, for me. For a start there are many things that I do not entrust to the world, or the general population….not because of fear, or shame or embarrassment, as I said….. I possess none of those feelings. Some attributes or traits I possess are simply mine, they are deeply personal…..they are mine….for me only. What would be my purpose in running about telling everybody that my brain processes in a mode they call ADD?? What would i expect the benefit to be…..what could I possibly expect people to do with that information?? If I told my manager at work…..would I expect them or business community to give me special treatment……really?? I’ve shared with my family, by that I mean my immediate family, because it’s key to who I am. I share that and more, deeply with my partner. I’ve also shared with my children because they are also ADD and it is part of my job as a parent to educate them on things that may possibly affect their lives. I have one maybe two close close close sharing friends, that I have shared that, along with many other things very personal things….but that is a very very safe place for deep personal sharing….. that is why we are deep personal friends.

If I may suggest……look around, see what people do, how they treat very sensitive information about others……what the worlds outlook is towards that which is different from themselves…. do they embrace, learn, celebrate or do they separate, compartmentalize and judge that which they do not understand and is different from their safe position of their norm???? I find if I stop and ask myself the right questions and allow the answers to bubble up……I will find the right path. My path, the path for me…maybe not a path for anybody else…… but it is right for me.

Many people have labeled me a cynical, callous for some of my views, others find my ideas insightful, highly thought provoking and sensitive ……..either way that’s fine, I’m ok with that, they are perspective, people may do with them as they will…….but it is also a great sampling of that which I speak.

In the end the our life choices are ours…….but I suggest….we examine, risk and benefit from a all perspectives and then act according to our heart, how could that be wrong????

If I can share this thought……any information that does does not enhance our lives is of questionable value!!!!

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