Re: Time for a change.

[Rick Green – Founder of TotallyADD]

I’ve learned that when I’m stuck or can’t see what to do, it’s because I have a blind spot.

And it’s never about what I think it’s about.

For example, at Christmas I was feeling burned out. We’d worked so hard, and I was just unable to get motivated to do more around the website and all the other things that are unfolding. Even though they are incredibly important and are making a difference.

What I realized was going on underneath all of my, “I need a change.” and “I’ve done enough.” was something else.

Not wanting to be responsible.

Avoiding responsibility.

Avoiding failure.

Avoiding looking bad. (After all, what right does a comedian have to talk about an issue like this?)

Consider that whatever has you stopped, whatever the reasons are, there’s something underneath it.

Something very, very human.

Something every human being faces. And only a few figure out and overcome.

We want to be right,w e don’t want to look bad, we don’t want to get blamed, we don’t want to be tied down or have to buckle under.

We confuse ‘Freedom” and “Irresponsibility.”

Freedom is about having choice.

Irresponsibility is about avoiding something.

And I had confused ‘being responsible’ with ‘being blamed’. There’s a big difference. When my kids were born I accepted the responsibility of making sure they never went hungry and always had what they needed to grow up and be healthy. In that case, responsibility was me being in charge. I was the one who had a say in this. I was responsible because my hands were on the control levers, in a way.

When I saw what was going on, I was able to let it go and realize how much I loved doing this, how exciting and moving it is, and the tremendous possibilities that are opening up.

My energy level zoomed up, and everything has been moving at lightning speed since then.

But as I say, when I’m stuck, and I have a bunch of reasons… they’re never the real reasons.

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