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Also, don’t compare yourself with other ADHD people. Remember that there is quite varying levels of impairment between different people diagnosed as ADHD. For example, I marvel at anyone who can learn a musical instrument as I cannot stick with something long enough to come close to mastering one (Malcolm Gladwell states in Outliers that you need 10,000 hours) or even getting good. Many of us also have comorbid conditions, which makes matters that much worse. I think that I have noticed a difference in abilities to achieve based on statements from the website of those that identify themselves as inattentive only and those that are combined type, with the latter seeming to be the underachievers as adults.
Figure out what you do well and enjoy and TRY to do that. There are loads of unpleasant tasks in my present job and I just have to try and slug through it.
I don’t have advice on the negative thoughts as this plagues me as well. I think that we have failed at so many different things that we wanted to achieve over the years that we develop a negative outlook on life or our abilities. We just have to keep trying. Tweak how you go at a task to see if the outcome will be positive this time.
Ask others what they think you are good at if you can’t think of any yourself. You would be surprised what people say, especially in a workplace.
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