Someone needs to chat with my neuropsychologist and the lady I see at the behavoural center……… I’m sure not going to argue with two folks who do this for a living, and see ADHD every day and attemt to help folks deal with it. (over one person’s experience and beliefs)
Apparently when one has the combination and sort I have, as I was told bluntly “you are not going to be able to change who you are”.
I was told to instead change the situations and conditions to avoid the issues, that I could only do so much to control it. I could learn to use “tools” to help with time management, tools to help with anger issues, etc.
Some bits, yeah, one can learn and change – some things. Not all of it. Depends on the conditions. I was also told “all bodies are different……….” meaning what works for some may not work for all, and should not be expected to.
I firmly believe one should never stop trying, never give up, keep trying – don’t assume you can’t change it – try and do your best.
I’m never giving up. (I don’t give up easily in general anyway). Who knows – something in my life might change, some situation, some condition, or some drug might kick in, and suddely something may work. If I’ve stopped trying, i’d never know, would I?
So although I can say that after multiple marriages, multiple jobs, disasters in life and 54 years of experience, some things I’ve not been able to change or overcome (I would add “yet”) – similar for my mother, after 70 years of professional counseling, hospitalization, drugs of all sorts for many decades, some things she’s simply been unable to change. That’s even with the help of her entire family and many tens of thousands of dollars (more realistically, probably hundreds of thousands of dollars and good doctors) – doctors and hospitals of all sorts – some things are what they are. We are an electro-chemical machine. Chemical imbalances and damage or changes to the brain aren’t always able to be overcome (having worked in a head-injury rehab facility, I speak with a bit of experience) To say simply “anyone can change if they only want to ” or “only try hard enough” is calling us lazy and liars.
I don’t like the implications myself.
(also finding out that apparently my body has already adapted to the adderall and it’s no longer having any impact or effect – she’s going to try to double the dose and see where that goes – I was told that it’s possible we don’t be totally successful with drugs. I have found even other drugs have very little impact on me – aspirin, pain releivers, other things seem to have very little impact any more)
Don’t give up, keep trying, above all learn to love yourself and believe in yourself.
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