Re: What you may be doing that keeps you from making friends

[gforcewarp9]

I never had many friends in school–in fact I suffered from bullying from practically kindigarten to when I finally dropped out of highschool– but later, my larger than life and rather charming persona (if I don’t say so my self!) seemed to be appreciated in the punk/ sort of alternative culture scene, where so many of us a.d.d.er’s wind up. I can say that I’m lucky to have had so, so many good friends over the years, who have genuinely liked me despite/and or because of all my wierdness. You know, sometimes we put people off, but a.d.d.er’s can be offly charming, open, likeable and interesting. And really, in the kind of punk, alternativ-y world I’m talking about, I have known some way, way, WAY crazier characters than me. I guess, the point is, go where your appreciated. The suburban P.T.A might not be the place for me, or you. But Burning Man might just be! So there! I just wanted to point out that there can be alot of positives to having a.d.d in the social realm. At the same time, I certainly don’t want to invalidate anyone’s personal experiences making freinds, because I know it’s painful when it’s difficult–because, what’s interesting (and disheartening) now that I’m older and a mother and in a new area, I am definitely having a harder time than I used to. I have to try alot harder to watch all, and I mean all of the above faux pas. Not to mention, I just got a big personality and I just wanna be me! But really, I have learned that sometimes I gotta really dial’er down a notch. I want my son to have friends, after all.

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