Reply To: A Gift?

[Robbo]

I like what Howie Mandell said about ADHD. “If it’s a gift, I’d like to return it”

Yep, it’s been painful and terrific. “Terrific” is a strange word to use, huh? It’s not necessarily bad, or good. It’s a heck of a lot of entertainment, that’s for sure. It’s Terrific!.

I also like

” If ADD were a gift, why don’t people ask for it?”

Very good point. I sometimes wonder how many folks come here just to point and laugh?. I wonder a lot… It’s a curse of the ADHD imagination.

I tend to throw a positive spin onto my struggles because it’s always been my experience that optimism beats pessimism hands down each and every time.

We need to be honest about what we’re thinking, and how that makes us feel. Optimism is just plain more comfortable. I’m much more fun to be around when I’m optimistic.

In the end, if I did have the option of “returning this gift” I don’t think I would. There used to be a poll on this site before all the major (good) changes took hold. It asked us “if you could return your ADHD. To make it so you never had to struggle with it ever again. Would you?” I say no every time. Most of the poll said they would return it… I think… never could understand that. I’m still dumbfounded about it.

I just never wanted to “fit in” as much as so many of my actions have seemed to imply. Of course we “want to” fit it. But most of the time I don’t feel like I did. So I make the best of it. Sorta burried the idea that I EVER wanted to fit in. It’s less painful if I say “I never really wanted to fit it anyway”. Sometimes the truth is easier to just ignore. It get’s much smaller, and weaker. Later on, when I start to feel like I do actually fit in in some places. It’s hard to reconsile… It’s just plain awkward!… foreign. Strange indeed. Mostly cuz I’m strange. Stange indeed. But I also know that I’m not all that unique. I just have to accept the fact that I’m like a lot of the other ADDers around this camp. I’m special.
Priceless.

With an optimistic attitude. My core thinking eventually catches up with my attitude, and I end up fairly happy. Happen enough… “happy enough” is good enough.

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