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MRMckay:

If you like schmoozing, have you ever considered the possibility of schmoozing for people who don’t like to schmooze or are bad at it? There are a lot of graphic designers and illustrators, for example, who tend to be quiet, reclusive introverts, who are terrible at self-promotion because they never want to leave their houses and have a conversation. Or  other schmoozing-type jobs, like selling real estate, where success rides on your ability to schmooze and it’s a valued skill, a real asset. What would it be like to find a business partner who prefers to sit in a room alone and work, while you go out and chat up the clients? Can’t tell you how much I wish I knew someone around here like that, someone who could bring me the work, so I’d be free to just do it.

I wonder if a bunch of ADHDers with complementary skills would be a business powerhouse, where everyone could focus with frenzied intensity on what they do best. How unstoppable would that be?

Sorry if I missed the part where you talk about what you actually do…?

You like doing physical stuff? Is that what’s appealing about the military? You ever do any gardening or farming? Like being outside, working with your hands, doing mechanical stuff?

When I had an ADHD coach, the main focus of the discussion tended to be on how I am naturally inclined to spend my time. What would I be doing, completely self-motivated, for its own sake, if I were not worried about trying to find a job or conform to external expectations? I’d be doing what I’ve always done: Making pictures and writing something. Seems to be how I was made. I think each of us has some natural inclination like that. It might be helpful to take note of what those kinds of activities are for you…?

Reminds me of something someone once said to me…”People never change, they just become more so.” I feel like I am becoming more of who I am by discarding what I’m not. If that makes sense.

 

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