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Hi, welcome to the forums. 🙂
I don’t have children, so I can’t offer any specific advice. Hopefully some of the other parents here can comment and give you some ideas about how to cope with parenthood.
I do take care of my elderly mother and I get the same sense of overwhelm when I am out with her sometimes. It’s just so hard to coordinate, to make sure I am watching her and everything else that is going on at the same time.
One thing I do is plan very carefully. I pretty much clear a whole day just to take her to the doctor. And I go over it all in my head, or even write it out, the night before, step by step.
And stay calm. Just take a deep breath and take it one step at a time. Simplify, minimize the amount of stuff you have to focus on if you can.  And in those group situations, try focusing on just one person you can hold a conversation with.
If you have to take a little longer to do something, or ask someone to repeat what they said, or take a break and go sit somewhere quiet for a bit, or ask a friend to help you help you out, go ahead and do it. If you have to leave and go home, do that, unless you really want to stay.
Part of the reason you are finding it so hard too might be that your brain chemistry and hormone levels have changed. If you take medication, it may need to be adjusted. I think it might not hurt to talk to your doctor about how you feel and see if there is anything he/she can recommend that might help. Also, if you can afford it, a few sessions with a coach could be helpful, just to give you someone to talk to who will understand and be able to help you work out solutions.
And remember, no one is perfect. Everyone feels overwhelmed when they become a parent and everyone makes mistakes. So go easy on yourself.
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