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If he’s your fiance, then I would definitely talk to him and tell him. If you are going to spend the rest of your life together, then you both will have to find ways to work with the ADHD, because it’s going to affect BOTH of your lives.
When you talk to him, I would give some concrete examples of how ADHD affects you (housework, finances, routines, work, etc) and then give some ways that you both will have to work together.
Now that I think about it, I’d suggest doing this to any couple getting married regardless if they have ADHD or not. Marriage is a partnership that takes a lot of work and compromise.
If he’s open to it, then I would suggest you both read “Is it You, Me, or Adult ADD?” by Gina Pera. It covers relationships and marriages with ADHD.
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