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Unfortunately – despite your best efforts . . . you cannot change others. Nor can you influence them if they don’t see you as a person of authority. It seems that your prof understands your situation . . gotta learn to let it go, and take responsibility for Your stuff – ONLY. You’re probably not ‘bossy’ – you just want the ‘team’ to be as dedicated and responsible to the task as you, as it affects your outcome. But they’re not. . . . . . As for ‘focused’ and ‘scattered’ .. . it comes with the territory. Way back when – long before I was diagnosed with ADD, I did not have much of a reputation in college as a good (?) student . . too scattered and unfocused . . but my Junior year, with the first ‘true’ technical paper due, I (unintentionally) waited until the last week or so, then cranked out my paper. My prof wrote: “Outstanding! You truly are an underachiever” . . . . To this day (25+ years later), I ‘need’ that crisis focus to do my best work. I don’t like it. I wish I could change it. But here I am. You have the benefit of knowing your disability at a young age – with great resources like this website to find and build the tools to help you succeed. I was not diagnosed until I was 41. . . . I suspect you will learn the techniques that help you manage this ‘condition’. Small, but consistent, steps . . and don’t be too hard on yourself for wanting to succeed, particularly when steps are out of your hands.
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