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@kc5jck – LOL. I just might do that.

He really doesn’t mean anything by it though. He doesn’t realize the affect it has on me, how many times I’ve failed, been criticized, ridiculed, humiliated….and half of the time it was me doing the criticizing. Those voices are so firmly implanted in my brain that I usually quit before I start. And it doesn’t take much to convince me to quit after I start.

@dithl – That entire list seems undoable to me. And it wouldn’t matter how many checklists, post-its, schedules…whatever I have.

I am learning to resist those new ideas a little better. I just have to keep reminding myself every time I go to buy supplies for a new hobby or project that I can not do it. Not until I get the house organized and get some other things out of the way first.

Sometimes though starting a new fun or creative project is what motivates me to do the mundane stuff. I will do something, like start making decorations for Halloween, and that automatically leads to a need to do other things- clear the table off to make space to work, clean the closet out to find the paintbrushes, sort out the supplies I already have so that I know what I have to work with….etc. If the project is important enough, and it has a deadline, it can lead to a lot cleaner and more organized house.

That is, of course, until I start working on the new project.

I “grew up in one big unfinished project” too. The more I think about it the more obvious it becomes that my dad had ADD. I’m still wrestling with the idea that I have to forgive him for….everything…because it wasn’t all his fault. And worse, that I am just like him. 🙁

But on the plus side, I have two years to go before I reach 42. So I don’t have The Answer yet. 🙂