Reply To: Dealing with the School System

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@pinkdex

So, here is a question, because I think you raise an interesting point.

You’re completely right, as far as nobody choosing the situation. I wish there were another model for learning.

You mentioned – maybe on another thread – and I’m not sure I have this right, but I think you said something to the effect that for a long time you didn’t know you had ADHD, and maybe it was your mother who tried to tell you about it, but you weren’t hearing it? Did I get that right?

Anyway, part of the challenge in our situation is that my son doesn’t want to hear a single word about ADHD. He thinks he doesn’t have it. He thinks nothing the school does will make a difference in his learning. I’m stressed out because if he doesn’t acknowledge he has it, how is he going to get help for it? I can’t force him to accept help – all I can do is try to slip in some help around the edges without telling him. And I  kind of suspect that his refusal to learn about it is itself a manifestation of ADHD. He doesn’t understand how it affects him. He thinks he should “try harder” in school. He thinks he’s “not motivated.” He thinks he “can’t concentrate.” Um, yeah. And why is that? He doesn’t want to hear why. He won’t take medication or cooperate with me at all around his IEP stuff. He doesn’t do homework, and half the time doesn’t even attend his classes. I’m watching a disaster unfold that I feel powerless to stop.

What would you say to someone who is totally in denial about ADHD?

 

 

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