Reply To: Frustated with having ADD

[Robbo]

Hi Faequine,
Looks like you’re back with us. Welcome back. I’m sure I’m not the only person who’s glad you’re here. As long as you’re here with us, there’s hope for you. I’ve been through some really awful and painful times in the last couple years. The last 48 actually. It’s a lifelong battle for many of us. But there’s also a thing called surrender that I’ve found working for me extremely well, many times . It’s a winning strategy. We stop the struggling when we surrender. It’s not exactly the same as giving up. It’s more like accepting that we need some help. Better help. That help is all here. Lot’s.

Please be willing to spend some time here, studying. Lot’s of folks here understand you like they won’t in many other places. That’s the fact of my experience over the last 19 or so months. A wild guess, I can’t count all that well.

It’s taken many hours of reading. Re-reading, and reading stuff again and again… A LOT!. I’ve watched many of the videos here multiple times. I’m not always happy with the way my brain works. The correct term is “executive function”. But we’re just talking about the mechanics of how our thinking works, ADD makes using the noodles between our ears a lot harder, but in this camp we’ve all found and shared with each-other many new and fitting ways that work. We share them with you, free of any fee or guilt ridden conditions. We’re just happy to no longer be suffereing the way we did before finding this community.

More of the solution-
Our brains belong to us, so the trick is to take ownership of your brain and learn to take charge of it. How the heck does that happen? Practice… tons!!! I mean lot’s and lots of practice. Till your ass falls off and your eye balls won’t stay open any longer kind of reading, watching the video’s here. And sharing about what’s been going on between your ears the way you already have in this thead. You do a great job of communication with us about how your ADHD has been hurting your life, your family, and your heart. I repeat myself sometimes because that’s what it takes for me to learn. If you’ve got ADD like I’ve got ADHD, well then the repetition, while a bit annoying and often extremely irritating. It does indeed sink it. (It) the solution that is.

The solution is stated in many different and fully satisfying ways all around this web site. I’m really sure you’ll find at least half a dozen or maybe even just 6 or more women around this camp who will strike you as being sort of a “sister from another mother”. You may have skimmed through the creepy crawly stories of our friend from OZ (Austrailia). He’s just one of several brothers from another mother that I like to feel like I can relate to in this camp. I’m not married, had a close call… does that count?. Well, if not me then I’m sure you’ll find manty more people in this camp who will make you feel encouraged, hopeful, and I’m confident you will find some new and really solid reasons to really like the fact that you are stuck with this ADD malady. You will also find that it is indeed the kind of thing that changes as you change the way you look at it. I highly recommend the DVD called “ADD and Loving It?!” I’ve got it. I have watched it at least a dozen times. Beginning with at least 4 or more when it was on PBS. I also have the “ADD and Mastering It” DVD movie thing. It’s got tons of solutions packed into the hour or so it takes to watch it. I’m sure that I made tons of progress during the months (many moons) before getting it. Just by watching the many video’s here.

Most of all I got helped by making friends with my ADHD. Making friends with all the characters that habitate this site also helped me tons. Check out the “we’re nice people here” thread, here’s a link just in case you read this when that link is no longer easy to find. http://totallyaddconnect.com/forums/topic/were-nice-people-here/

I hope you “keep coming back” This ain’t AA, but lot’s of lives get changed for the better here. And we won’t ask you to work any steps or tell your deep dark secrets to any of us in order to get all better. We will just care for you and hopefully get to watch you really learn to care for yourself. All we really want is to see you become as happy as many of us usually are. Er, well we will be, or plan to be. We got hope!. Yeah that’s it. We got hope. Hope… We got that gal.

I’m nearly done with my second year of what I’m gonna call “ADHD basic training” I’ve read in more than one place that the first couple years can be really quite a wild ride. But I can also tell you from experience that my life has indeed gotten much better, easier, and more comfortable. I can’t tell you how this all happened in this one post. That story is plastered all over the Internet for crying out loud. But it’s a good story with a really good ending. I’m here today just to give you some hope about your story ending in a wonderful and comfortable, really feeel good kinda way. The folks in this camp will really start to grow on you. And there are folks here that can also help you find the right kind of skin creams and lotion/potions for the ones in this community that grow on you a lil too much. Yep, fungus! only kidding. So far I haven’t gotten any germs on my,or me… um, never mind. Not in the entire 19 or so months I’ve been goofin off her. Nope. Not even an itch or a scratch. Now I’m scratching my head but that’s a problem I’ve always had.

I get really comfuzed.
R-

 

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