Reply To: Getting to sleep

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@Cayjam: I know what you’re talking about. Had similar problems long before I’ve got even diagnosed with ADD.

I think your are experiencing also some anxiety and compulsory disorder problems. Don’t forget ADD/ADHD never comes alone.

First advice, I second what everybody else already said. Go, see your psychiatrist!!!!!
Secondly, this will help you with those anxiety/compulsory problems.
There’s something very common about people with ADD/ADHD and all the other crap that comes with it (you are not alone, we all have similar problems!).
We always worry more about other people than ourselves. Whether we fear we are disturbing them or whatever else, we are always more concerned about the wellbeing of others around us.
Yet, we are the one’s who suffer from insomnia and what not.
Do yourself a favour and realize that first and foremost you’ve got to take care of yourself. – This has nothing to do with being selfish. It has to do with changing your thinking and hence controlling your anxiety. Don’t be afraid you might wake up the other person. Guess what, s/he is already asleep while you are not. Even if s/he wakes up briefly they will go back to sleep as quickly.
Or if you’re afraid the person beside you might touch up against you, instead of worrying about it and it’s consequences for you (the compulsory part feeds of your anxiety) reverse the role and be the one who does the touching/brushing up. Again, the person beside you is at sleep. By reversing the role you are in fact eliminating your anxiety completely.

When I was your age I had this compulsive habit of checking my alarm clock gazillion times before I could even relax enough to fall asleep. I got completely fed up with having to reach out to the darn alarm clock hundreds of times to check whether it’s set or not, it wasn’t funny anymore. One day I had the glorious idea to get a second alarm clock and put it across the room, way out of my reach. Knowing I had a back-up I cannot turn off accidentally solved the problem instantly and put an end to my compulsive behaviour for good.

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