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@Robbo:

This is the book I’m talking about:

DBT was developed by someone with borderline personality disorder for others who have that problem, but much of it is applicable to ADHD-related emotional issues (the brooding, the reactivity, the intensity, getting stuck).

 

FWIW, and I know we are not supposed to get into a big religious discussion, but in my experience, appealing to a “higher power,” whatever it is, whatever you call it, brings results. I am completely with you on that.

People do not like to hear about religion often because they have had very bad experiences with it, and this is understandable. I have absolutely no problem with atheism. What other people believe is none of my business. Many people who grow up in religious environments come away with scars and baggage that take decades to heal. From what I’ve seen, most organized religions (including my own) preach things they don’t practice. And even encourage things that fly directly against what they profess to believe. And it can get very ugly and very petty. As my husband puts it, “the worst thing about religion is religious people.” My faith forbids us from seeking converts. We are not allowed to do that. We also believe that “god” is inherently unknowable, and that to attempt to describe “god” limits “god,” who is infinite – and we are not allowed to do that either.  There are people out there who claim to be Christian but behave in ways I am quite certain Jesus would not have approved of, and they are dragging down your faith. In Judaism, we call bad behavior like that “chillul ha shem” – it means hollowing out the holy name of god. We are not allowed to act like jerks. When we do, we give our tradition, our faith, and god a bad name. It is forbidden to do so. That’s what “taking the lord’s name in vain” means – going through life violating the code of ethics we claim to value. Not cool. People don’t like Jews too much, either, but all of that is based in ignorance. If your faith gives you strength and a sense of purpose, I think that’s great. You should not worry about what other people think, because the relationship between you and your god is just that – between you, private, sacred, and nobody’s business.

The past couple of weeks have been hellacious for me because I cannot sleep to save my life. I am awake all night, in and out of different layers of fog. I guess I do sleep, because I dream I have insomnia, and I only know this because I’m having insomnia in a strange house with people I’ve never met. But the upshot is that I feel very raw and frazzled around the edges.

I think solid exercise would help a lot – sustained cardio. And on that note, I am going for a brisk walk.

 

 

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