Reply To: Help me – Help my son

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@mcp

I know I am coming into this conversation late. Please relay this to your son:

Dear mcp’s son.

At this point in your life you have a fantastic choice. We all get to make choices which have effects on our lives. But few people get to know how important those choices are BEFORE they make them. This one, the one you have before you is one of those important ones and you get to make it early in your life.

In your heart of hearts, you know you are not like other people. You know you struggle with things most people do as easily as breathe. You know you do things and think about things that most people don’t or can’t. Have you ever wondered why? Of course you have. We all have.

You have been told that you might have ADD, and that is scary. I know. Don’t worry. Being ADD is not a death sentence. It is a LIFE sentence. It is scary. You have to change. You have to work. You have to learn, You have to discover. You have to be VERY honest with yourself. And you have to grieve.

Why do you grieve? You grieve because your life is different from other people. That difference now has a name, and there is nothing you can do about it. Your “perfect life” is not perfect any more. It is a terrible loss. I have been through that grieving process, and so has everyone at TotallyADD. It is real. You not only grieve for yourself, you grieve for your (lost) dreams you had for yourself. You had envisioned a wonderful life reaching your goals and your success. Now it is not to be and, in a way, is the loss of that dream.

I can tell you, son of mcp, that getting a diagnosis, will only HELP you attain your dreams. You just won’t get to them the way you thought you would, but you will reach your goals. Who knows? With the diagnosis and the tools you will learn, you may find even better dreams to chase.

Getting a diagnosis will take away most of that fear, because a diagnosis answers more questions than it asks.

Good luck, and remember: You are not alone.

 

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