Reply To: How do I make myself SHUT UP?

[Anonymous]

There is a huge difference between saying that we have tendencies toward hyper focus, blurting things out, being impulsive and the like and coupling those indicators with emotionally driven bad behaviors.

Emotions are not hard wired to ADHD. Having a heightened emotional response is.

This is the difference.

While the bulk of the research may suggest certain things about AD/HD, more research that actually demonstrated the opposite is coming out every day. Several were released in the last week. Dr. Amen has an opinion based on a hypothesis. There are many competing views. Using leaches to bleed out disease was commonly accepted at one time, it does not mean it was the correct method.

One can easily see why learned emotional disconnects result in specific behaviors in the teachings of Carl Jung. All people repress things in their lives and those things eventually manifest as their dark side (pains, physical or emotional). It is well known that each of us adopt our personal psychology by about age six and that is normally driven by our care givers and/or parents. We continue those patterns we learn the rest of our lives…the negative patterns appear very much as addictive behaviors. The same is true in people with ADHD.

Interrupting people and being rude is likely an emotional disconnect. It appears like addictive behavior. The individual gets a specific feeling or “high” during the experience, afterward feels low or depressed and repeats the behavior. Neurotypical people with addictions go through the same cycle. I didn’t invent this. Addictions are repetitive behaviors that do not benefit us.
The behavior described is more often seen in people with Asperger’s. Particularly, in that they also have poor social skills and the ability to recognize social cues. Suggesting that it may be a possibility is perfectly appropriate. Apparently, you are dealing with some serious issues and can’t entertain other views based on known research. Suggesting Dr. Amen alone has all the answers is a fallacy in and of itself. What he says is interesting, but not fact. There is no fact in science.

There are emotional triggers to most of the behaviors that are associated with ADHD. Certain symptoms are associated with ADHD and behaviors are not. There is a distinction. Behaviors are not symptoms, but indicators.

There are a number of universities, including one where we conducted our own research and developed programs to teach students where the behaviors were not evident. The children did not need to be drugged and were perfectly behaved. They got better grades the neurotypical counterparts.

People with ADHD do not have a hard-wired urge to insert themselves into conversations. That is much different than blurting out something during a meeting. The suggesting that people with ADHD are hard wired to insert themselves in conversations and be rude about it has no evidence or basis.

 

 

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