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GREAT ADVICE HERE!
Wgreen, I hear you about, “You can be anything you want.”
I can’t be an NBA Star. Too short. Too old. Too out of shape… Let’s just stick with too short.
But then the question to ask is, “Do I really want to be an NBA star?” And the answer is no. The question to ask, I think, is what do you want to be. That’s the key step that 95% of people never do.
And studies have shown that the 5% who do know the answer to what they want to do, or be, or have, and if they write it out and define it, are far more successful in life. When we made the documentary ADD & Loving It?! Ava and I wrote out a list of about 15 things we wanted for the program, including how many people would see it, how many lives would be impacted, the awards it might win, and so on.
Some of them didn’t come true. But most did. And most went above and beyond. It wasn’t magic, it was just that we had these goals in mind, and it guided what we did, what decisions we made, how we spent the budget, who we interviewed… even what the title would be. (I chose something that sounded offensive to people who have ADHD and are struggling and would appeal to people who know little or nothing about ADHD and wanted a show that would confirm that it was a great thing and people with ADHD should just stop complaining.) (And then when they actually tuned in, the ADDers were validated beyond words, and the people who didn’t know were stunned, but not made wrong. They weren’t scolded, or guilted, or mocked.)
Okay, I’m wandering.
The point I was trying to make is that to figure out which of your strengths you want to build on, and which of the issues around ADHD you want to get under control and turned around, you have to figure out what you want to do. Where do you want to get to?
No sense spending a huge amount of time for a system to remember you car keys if you’re not going to drive anywhere.
Does that make sense? I’m not sure if I explained this clearly.
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